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When the Future Feels Hopeless

These (see below) are great as ways to refocus yourself and get out of a rut.What I learned to do for myself is look at what is sustainable versus what I feel obligated to do, pressured to do, etc. What am I doing that really makes me feel good, accomplished, and able to go on and do more. So many things I was doing and focused on for poor reasons. Those things were not helping me but were keeping me from doing the things I really did want to do.

Productivity is a cycle, a chain of events. If you are stuck on one step you can’t move on to the next. So, try finding a different chain of events or change the cycle and see if it can avoid the blocked step, the part that you can’t manage alone, or right now, or maybe don’t really even need.

From a post: What to do When the Future Feels Hopeless

1. Channel your inner lawyer.

Pessimism generally distorts reality. … employing what they call a disputing technique—verbalizing the negative assumptions we are making about the future, and disputing them with realistic facts.

Most likely, your future is also brighter than what you may think at your darkest moments, so dispute your pessimism not with mindless optimism, but with facts. Build a solid case for something other than the worst-case scenario, and argue it to yourself like a lawyer. And while you’re at it, read fewer stories about the pandemic. You probably aren’t learning anything new, but, rather, just trying to get a bit more certainty about the future, which is impossible.

2. Turn constraints into decisions.

… In other words, start an examination of every problem by listing the apparent limitations on your freedom, and instead of taking them as given, consider how you can change them.

… you might use this period to reset your definition of productivity. True, many aspects of many jobs have been made more difficult by the pandemic. But other parts of a truly productive life are begging for your attention. You can set goals for exercise, work on acquiring new skills, spend quality time with loved ones, or learn to tame your monkey mind in meditation. This is the sort of productivity that will reward you in the long run and can help you establish a healthier, happier equilibrium when the pandemic is over.

Old Hamilton, 1950’s

Hamilton, Ontario, Canada. I think this was taken in the 1950’s by my Grandfather, Bill Scherle.

Likely this was taken from the mountain, or what they call a mountain in Hamilton. It is a nice view. Some of these type of houses can still be found in Hamilton. The house my Mother grew up in is still there. We drive out and visit it every few years.

My Father was born in another country so we can’t visit his childhood home. I don’t know if it still exists and I’ve never seen it.

Do you know where your parents were born, have you seen the house or photographs of it? Does it still stand? If you don’t know anything about it can you find out from someone?

Visiting Horses

This year the CNE (Canadian National Exhibition) was not allowed to be open. But, the Carlsberg Championship team of horses haven’t been at the CNE for a long time. I remember seeing the team of horses pulling the beer wagon when I was a teenager, and younger. It was one of the things I most liked to see each year. The horses were huge. I still especially like those big horses like Clydesdales, Belgians, Jutlands and the others like them. I’m not a horse person, to the the extent of studying them, visiting horse events or riding horses. But, I enjoy seeing the big horses and I have ridden horses a few times. Not lately.

When did you last see horses, live (not on television or the Internet, or a photograph)? You could make a road trip to visit horses. Look for a horse farm, or a place where horses are boarded. Drive out there and find a place to park and watch the horses outside. It’s peaceful to sit with the car engine off, windows open to the breeze and the quiet.